Tuesday, June 4, 2013
The Birds and The Bees and The Dinosaurs
In the 1950's if you were a parent and did not have a "Birds and the Bees" talk with your teen, you were normal.
In the 1980's if you were a parent and did not have a "Birds and the Bees" talk with your teen, you were foolish.
Now in the 2010's if you are a parent and do not have a "Birds and the Bees" talk with your teen, you need to turn in your parenting card and find another line of work. Conservative parents are unlikely to want to let society, school, TV, and music be the main source of information for their children about the physical and emotional changes that they will encounter as teens. Yet many of us feel unprepared to adequately teach our teens about this important topic.
Fortunately for parents, one of the great parenting experts from the Christian perspective, Dr. James Dobson, has created an excellent tool parents can use to communicate this important information to their children as they approach the teen years.
Later this week I will be taking my third son on a three hour trip from Salt Lake City to Vernal where we will visit Dinosaur National Monument and go river rafting and fishing. I made this same trip with my other two sons and my wife made different trips with our daughters, all when in the 11-13 age range. During the long drive there and back we will listen to Dr. Dobson's book Preparing for Adolescence: How to Survive the Coming Years of Change on CD.
This is an excellent way to help introduce your preteens and teens to information they can use to prepare for their teen years. I appreciate Dr Dobson being able to share these important lessons in a way much more effective than I would be able to do.
There is too much at stake for young people during their teen years and they need information like this so they don't have to rely on the damaging material provided by modern culture alone. I highly, highly recommend that all parents use this program for their children entering puberty.
The topics covered in this recorded book are:
1 - Canyons of Inferiority. Dr. Dobson discusses the journey from puberty to adulthood, including feelings of inferiority regarding physical attributes, intelligence, money and status symbols. He offers sound advice on how to avoid feelings of inferiority and develop self-confidence.
2 - Conformity in Adolescence. How to handle peer pressure and fears of rejection, failure and unpopularity. Dr Dobson warns listeners that conformity can be harmful and can keep young people from doing what is right.
3 - Explanation of Puberty. Describes the physical and hormonal changes adolescents will experience. Also includes a frank discussion of sex and encourages abstinence before marriage.
4 - Meaning of Love. Includes a 10-question quiz with answers to each question. Issues covered include distinguishing real love from infatuation; sex outside of marriage; marrying or staying single; and several misconceptions young people might have about love and marriage.
5 - Search for Identity. Discusses the intense emotions experienced during adolescence; six key characteristics of emotions; conflicts between the generations; and the desire for independence from one's parents.
6 - Getting Real. Dr. Dobson and four 16-year-olds candidly discuss the problems faced by teenagers. Topics include peer pressure, drugs, communication with parents, dating, image issues and more.